Self-Care As A Way Of Being

By Lola Fayemi | March 20, 2019 |
self care

When we talk about self-care, we usually talk about what we’re going to do. Although acts of self-care are very important, there is a piece before that. Are we being self-caring when we do self-care? An act of self-care if not coming from a place of love could be self-punishment in disguise. I’d love to…

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How To Create Your Own Lane

By Lola Fayemi | March 13, 2019 |

Following on from my last blog post about creating your own lane, this week I share some practical tips on how to do just that. (If you prefer, there’s a written summary of those tips below the video.) Enjoy! 1. Uncover your lane. Creating your own lane is actually a process of uncovering your true…

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Create Your Own Lane

By Lola Fayemi | March 6, 2019 |

Not feeling like part of the mainstream? Maybe you’re not here to fit in. Maybe, just maybe, you’re here to help change our society. You’ll only make the contribution you wish to by staying out of others’ lanes and creating your own.

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The Truth About Transformation

By Lola Fayemi | February 27, 2019 |
truth about transformation. River

Something I hear a lot in various guises is… “I was doing so well, I was feeling great and really positive and then I don’t know what happened, it all went wrong. I must have fallen off the wagon and I just need to get back to where I was when I was feeling good.”…

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What Is Your Core Truth?

By Lola Fayemi | February 20, 2019 |

Stripped right back, Boss Ass Living is about truth. Core truth. It’s a phrase that gets bandied around a lot here. So, what is it?

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Reclaiming Motherhood

By Lola Fayemi | February 13, 2019 |

Living a Boss Ass life is a process of reclaiming your power over parts of your life where it may have been given away. Boy oh boy is motherhood one of those areas that comes with heavy and historic common narratives that, surprise surprise, I don’t buy into!   Mother’s Guilt is something I was…

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You’ve Got 2 Choices: Courage or Cowardice

By Lola Fayemi | February 6, 2019 |
Doors - courage or confidence

Courage or cowardice; cowardice or courage – what’s it to be?

They’re basically two sides of the same coin with something very significant in common:

They both require fear.

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Let’s Talk About Forgiveness

By Lola Fayemi | November 8, 2018 |

  Can I be honest about something? I don’t really get forgiveness. Don’t get me wrong I don’t walk around with loads of grudges, quite the opposite actually. I’m a fairly happy-go-lucky, thick-skinned kinda gal but I don’t fully get it. I mean beyond the intellectual understanding of it. I think the word is quite…

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Who am I?

By Lola Fayemi | October 29, 2018 |

It started with a question… If you could do anything in the world and was guaranteed success, what would you do?  I was a 25 year old woman with an extremely unfulfilling job in Recruitment. I’d been doing it for a few years and the adrenaline of hitting targets and making good money was really…

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What is a Queen?

By Lola Fayemi | October 29, 2018 |

*** This post is part of a series of posts that define commonly used terms on this site. Since people often use the same words but mean different things which leads to misunderstanding I decided to be explicit and clear about the meaning of certain important words and terms pertaining to this site.   ***…

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