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Empowering Women and People of Colour to reclaim YOUR damn power and rock the world like only YOU can!

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Attempts have been made to disconnect you from your power

Facts - The systems of patriarchy, supremacy culture and toxic capitalism have attempted to rob us ALL of our authentic power. The standards and values of these systems have been internalised by us and we have mistaken them for our own. They are not ours. They are not yours.

Don’t get me wrong, you’ve done a fabulous job so far sis. All that pushing, striving and contorting yourself into all kinds of shapes to get ahead - well done! You’ve achieved in spite of these systems though, not because of them. This world wasn’t built for you to thrive. Gosh, can you imagine what you’d be capable of if it was!?

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These systems constantly and consistently attempt to:

Marginalise, minimise and sanitise the full power of your glorious feminine energy
Condition you that your worth is based on how much you can produce so that they can extract
Disconnect you from the ancient and indigenous wisdom that lives in you
Programme you to a mindset that is depressing, dry, colonial and stifling AF for many, yet promoted as the ‘right way to live’

I say this not to blame but to acknowledge the world that we actually live in. I like my development to take place against the backdrop of the reality of society. A society that won’t be changed by ignoring it and hoping it will go away. Nope, it will take us putting on our big girl panties and dismantling it within ourselves FIRST then dismantling it outside.

We’re here for the long game.

It’s time to take it back!

You're a gift from the Ancestors.

- Eileen, Management Consultant

My People Are:

Women and People of Colour

Usually 1st or 2nd generation immigrant and used to straddling at least 2 cultures - the culture of your heritage and the culture of the country you live in. You’re master at adapting and likely well-versed in code switching. You’re also carrying around a ton of baggage as living in a world that wasn’t made for you takes a cognitive and emotional toll that has become normal to you.

Innovators and Disruptors

Trouble makers, misfits, black sheep, mavericks, fire starters and pioneers in their life, work or family. ‘Not fitting in’ is kinda your thing….

Basic you are not! You see things differently from the majority, bring a unique perspective and can see the bigger picture of life. You are visionary, forward-thinking with a tendency to sense a reality that doesn’t physically exist YET. You see possibility in a world where many think ‘things will never change.’

Spiritually conscious AND socially aware

You believe in a Higher Power or Intelligence and see yourself as being in connection with it. You know you are a part of, not separate from, nature. You believe in energy yet the whitewashed world of spirituality doesn’t fully appeal to you. You like your spirituality a lil more grounded, real, juicy and alive.

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Take your power back and use it to create a better world. So you can:

Live your truth not your conditioning
Tap into all of that juicy potential waiting to be ignited within you
Break the heavy cycles of familial and social conditioning keeping you from your joy
Release the generational and ancestral trauma you carry around so you can access the generational wisdom that is also there for you
Leave the legacy you want to leave
Own your true nature and unique feminine power

Live your truth not your conditioning
Tap into all of that juicy potential waiting to be ignited within you
Break the heavy cycles of familial and social conditioning keeping you from your joy
Release the generational and ancestral trauma you carry around so you can access the generational wisdom that is also there for you
Leave the legacy you want to leave
Own your true nature and unique feminine power

I whole-heartedly recommend Lola as a coach and professional, especially to leaders, powerful women and men,
people who are looking to stop playing small and make a difference in their work and community.

- Laura, Certified Coach and Somatic Facilitator

ABOUT ME

Hey I’m Lola Fayemi (she/her), the person behind Boss Ass Living. I’m a cishet first generation Brit of Nigerian heritage (Igbo & Yoruba) born and raised in South London.

I have ADHD and I’m also a Mother to a neurodivergent teen son.

I know a thing or two about reclaiming power, both personally and professionally. My lived experience partnered with my extensive professional training and experience makes me somewhat of a POWERHOUSE!

The full spectrum of power gets my juices flowing, big time….. ! I know a lot about disempowerment, empowerment,

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powerlessness, power over, power to and with, and my personal favourite flavour of power, AUTHENTIC POWER.

I’m a Systems Coach, meaning that as much as I believe in individual personal development and agency I also appreciate that we all live within systems (familial, social, cultural etc) that significantly affect us. As a black woman I know that ‘neutral perspectives and opinions’ are often not neutral at all and don’t include people like me. Whiteness is the default and people of colour are only partly served in that perspective.

Boss Ass Living is primarily of service to women and people of colour.