Posts by Lola Fayemi

Busy as a Badge of Honour

busy as a badge of honour

Busyness…. It’s been on my mind a lot recently. As an excitable, passionate person there’s always a lot going on in my life. However, as I increasingly live a life aligned with my truth and not the truth of others, I notice it’s starting to feel real uncomfortable. I’m so fucking bored of saying ‘really…

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A Counter-Intuitive Approach to Progress

An alternative way of viewing progress other than the ‘onwards, always onwards’ approach. Instead of pushing forwards, try moving at the speed of the slowest part of you. Sometimes you have to go back and attend to the part (or parts) of you that’s digging its heels in so you can move forward with greater…

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What ‘they’ told you

‘They’ told you… You should be slim, not fat. You must have a flat stomach, not a round one. You need to have long, straight hair, not short, curly or, God forbid, afro hair. You should have white or at least light skin, not dark. You need to be small and quiet, not big and…

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The Common Misconceptions About Power

There’s a lot of hype these days about owning your power. I like it, it’s a good thing. Collectively we are waking up to the fact that we have power and noticing the ways we give and have been giving that power away. I’ve specialised in helping people own their power and live their truth…

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Phases of Learning

steps - phases of learning

Trying to run before you can walk? The four stages of competence. An oldie but a goodie and a powerful model for learning, reminding us that learning is a process which goes through particular phases. There is a process to learning that in our fast-paced, immediate culture people try and skip. Learn more about the…

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Q: How Do I Stay Authentic Around Inauthentic People?

I get asked various versions of this question a lot! My take on it is this…. Your authenticity is YOUR business, your responsibility. No-one is going to do it for you. Stay focused on yourself. Other people’s authenticity is none of your business. Don’t get sucked into blaming, judging and shaming them for who and…

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Your Inherent Feminine Power

Do you know how inherently powerful you are as a woman? I’m not talking about the ‘I am woman, hear me roar’ kind of power, which is a reaction and has it’s place, but our natural, innate and inherent power. At its core, Boss Ass Living is about reclaiming your inherent power as a woman…

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The Obstacle Is The Path

Japanese bridge. The obstacle is the path

“The obstacle is the path” Old Zen saying I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, especially as nothing in my life goes according to plan. Aside from how we respond, I wonder how much control we really have. I know this can be a scary thought. We need the illusion of control, or else……

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How To Find Clarity When You’re Feeling Confused

Most people don’t like to feel confused.  It’s foggy, you have to hang out in the unknown, you don’t feel in control, you are unsure of what to do, you feel overwhelmed by problems or by the possibilities available to you. Either way, it’s not fun for most people to feel confused and not know…

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How To Stay in Connection with Yourself – A Technique

We’re living in uncertain times with things changing at an alarming rate in every way – individually, collectively, politically and globally. The only thing we are certain of is that we do not know what’s ahead of us. The old ways are dying and new ways are not here yet. We’re heading for a void…

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