“The obstacle is the path”Old Zen saying
I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, especially as nothing in my life goes according to plan.
Aside from how we respond, I wonder how much control we really have. I know this can be a scary thought. We need the illusion of control, or else…
Or else what?
All hell will break loose? We’ll lose everything? Things will descend into utter chaos?
What if that’s not true?
As a recovering control freak who
sometimes frequently relapses, I gotta say my life flows in a much better way when I’m not pushing and trying to force it to MY will. I still have goals or intentions about how I want things to be, but getting my way no matter what? I’m not sure that’s me at my best.
What if something bigger and better is available for you? Something that currently sits outside the awareness of your current mind? It may surprise you to hear that there’s actually a lot available in this world that sits outside of what you currently know. Aren’t you curious…?
The problem with pushing your agenda no matter what, is that it involves fighting with Life, going against the flow. Trying to shove a square peg through a round hole just so you can get your way.
We’re Queens, remember. We have confidence in our feminine way. Masculine energy is about the destination. Feminine energy is about allowing, the unfolding and the process. Both energies are needed and there’s a dance they need to do.
Masculine energy is needed to choose where you’re going. It sets the destination, just like putting the co-ordinates in the sat nav. Once that’s decided you need feminine energy to enjoy the journey, to bring pleasure to the proceedings – crank the music up and take in the scenery. When masculine energy is in charge of the journey, it’s not so pleasant. There’s a tendency for too much control and it becomes all about the end not the means.
But as we know in our wisest moments…
Life makes sense backwards
When you reflect back on things that have happened in your life that at the time seemed extremely unwanted, you can see the knock-on effect they had in bringing about something you did want. You wouldn’t have consciously chosen that path but in hindsight…
As Steve Jobs said:
“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”Steve Jobs
So, what if the obstacle IS the path? What if the obstacle isn’t this pesky thing in the way of you getting what you want, but something that’s actually helping you reach your destination or somewhere better?
Here’s a story for you…
There is an old Zen story about a King whose people had grown soft and entitled. Dissatisfied with this state of affairs, he hoped to teach them a lesson. His plan was simple: He would place a large boulder in the middle of the main road, completely blocking entry into the city. He would then hide nearby and observe their reactions.
How would they respond? Would they band together to remove it? Or would they get discouraged, quit, and return home?
With growing disappointment, the king watched as subject after subject came to this impediment and turned away. Or, at best, tried halfheartedly before giving up. Many openly complained or cursed the king or bemoaned the inconvenience, but none managed to do anything about it.
After several days, a lone peasant came along on his way into town. He did not turn away. Instead he strained and strained, trying to push it out of the way. Then an idea came to him: He scrambled into the nearby woods to find some- thing he could use for leverage. Finally, he returned with a large branch he had crafted into a lever and deployed it to dislodge the massive rock from the road.
Beneath the rock was a purse of gold coins and a note from the king, which said:
“The obstacle in the path becomes the path. Never forget, within every obstacle is an opportunity to improve our condition.”
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