Phases of Learning

By Lola Fayemi | May 15, 2019 | 0 Comments
steps - phases of learning

Trying to run before you can walk? The four stages of competence. An oldie but a goodie and a powerful model for learning, reminding us that learning is a process which goes through particular phases. There is a process to learning that in our fast-paced, immediate culture people try and skip. Learn more about the…

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Q: How Do I Stay Authentic Around Inauthentic People?

By Lola Fayemi | May 8, 2019 | 0 Comments

I get asked various versions of this question a lot! My take on it is this…. Your authenticity is YOUR business, your responsibility. No-one is going to do it for you. Stay focused on yourself. Other people’s authenticity is none of your business. Don’t get sucked into blaming, judging and shaming them for who and…

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Your Inherent Feminine Power

By Lola Fayemi | May 1, 2019 | 0 Comments

Do you know how inherently powerful you are as a woman? I’m not talking about the ‘I am woman, hear me roar’ kind of power, which is a reaction and has it’s place, but our natural, innate and inherent power. At its core, Boss Ass Living is about reclaiming your inherent power as a woman…

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The Obstacle Is The Path

By Lola Fayemi | April 17, 2019 | 0 Comments
Japanese bridge. The obstacle is the path

“The obstacle is the path” Old Zen saying I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, especially as nothing in my life goes according to plan. Aside from how we respond, I wonder how much control we really have. I know this can be a scary thought. We need the illusion of control, or else……

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How To Find Clarity When You’re Feeling Confused

By Lola Fayemi | April 3, 2019 | 0 Comments

Most people don’t like to feel confused.  It’s foggy, you have to hang out in the unknown, you don’t feel in control, you are unsure of what to do, you feel overwhelmed by problems or by the possibilities available to you. Either way, it’s not fun for most people to feel confused and not know…

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How To Stay in Connection with Yourself – A Technique

By Lola Fayemi | March 27, 2019 | 0 Comments

We’re living in uncertain times with things changing at an alarming rate in every way – individually, collectively, politically and globally. The only thing we are certain of is that we do not know what’s ahead of us. The old ways are dying and new ways are not here yet. We’re heading for a void…

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Self-Care As A Way Of Being

By Lola Fayemi | March 20, 2019 | 0 Comments
self care

When we talk about self-care, we usually talk about what we’re going to do. Although acts of self-care are very important, there is a piece before that. Are we being self-caring when we do self-care? An act of self-care if not coming from a place of love could be self-punishment in disguise. I’d love to…

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How To Create Your Own Lane

By Lola Fayemi | March 13, 2019 | 0 Comments

Following on from my last blog post about creating your own lane, this week I share some practical tips on how to do just that. (If you prefer, there’s a written summary of those tips below the video.) Enjoy! 1. Uncover your lane. Creating your own lane is actually a process of uncovering your true…

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Create Your Own Lane

By Lola Fayemi | March 6, 2019 | 0 Comments

Not feeling like part of the mainstream? Maybe you’re not here to fit in. Maybe, just maybe, you’re here to help change our society. You’ll only make the contribution you wish to by staying out of others’ lanes and creating your own.

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The Truth About Transformation

By Lola Fayemi | February 27, 2019 | 0 Comments
truth about transformation. River

Something I hear a lot in various guises is… “I was doing so well, I was feeling great and really positive and then I don’t know what happened, it all went wrong. I must have fallen off the wagon and I just need to get back to where I was when I was feeling good.”…

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